I believe people put far too much pressure on finding the “perfect” person to be in a relationship with.
They struggle through relationships trying to make them perfect, so to everyone they may look like they have it all together, but really they’re aching and not meant for each other. Recently I was asked what “my type” is and what I like in a significant other…. If I was 13, I would of had an entire list of what I wanted them to look like and all the attributes I thought they should have.
Caring…. & trust me the list goes on. But It was mainly on looks.
Now I’m not saying people who are beautiful on the outside, don’t have a heart…. But I find it most times I end up falling for the one that I least expected to. They are far from my “ideal” type, not as glamorous as the hollywood type…but you know what? So be it. If I have someone I can come home to at the end of the day that makes me laugh, brings joy to my heart, we can have meaningful conversations & equally care for each other…. what more do you want?
Life is full of adventure and it’s meant to live out your dreams, with someone who has similar views on life. If I was in a relationship with someone today that wanted to simply settle down and have kids–even though I have those wants, I would say leave me alone! Just as if someone wanted to go out every weekend & hit the clubs. I’m sorry, but I can’t see it happening. If my significant other didn’t challenge me on a daily basis, in ways that stretch my brain & outlook on life…I’d rather stay single.
Now some always ask me why I’ve been single for soooo long(not really that long in my book)… & you know what I tell them? Why waste my time with someone who doesn’t pull at my heart strings, see the world as I do and envision the same journey or future? I’d rather live it alone and in doing so, love myself as I do. That’s enough for me. I can’t & wont stay in a relationship that is mediocre or just okay. Now don’t get me wrong, it doesn’t mean I overlook a lot of people… I don’t. I just can’t settle. Love is the only thing in my life I will stay extremely stubborn for.
So back to the whole soul-mate thing. Do I believe in just one? No. There are many types of people in this world mean’t for you…. You just have to find one that is worth it. One that you’re happy with. One that makes you laugh. Feel safe. Feel comfortable & to be worth the struggle. I don’t know. Many think that I don’t know much of love, but I’ve seen relationships maintained and I’ve seen some fall apart over the years… all because they believe they’ve picked their soul-mate….to find out, they were never mean’t for each other.
I know I’ve found someone worth it, however….I don’t seem to be to them. So it’s like this, if you’re going to be someone’s second best or second choice? I would say walk away… because in the love of someone who really loves you….it shouldn’t be that hard, right? Ah, if it was only that easy to know.
Well I’ve ranted on for far too long and forgot what I even said towards the top, and I’m too lazy to read….so enjoy!